Prefatory Remarks: This is Hot Stuff for the OG
With these two stories - Dolezal and Jenner - taking up so much public mind-space lately, I need to strike while the iron is hot and get in a jab or two, perhaps try to get in a mixed metaphor. Because this issue and ones that surround it fascinate me no end. It's got everything an overweening generalist can frolic in: language, social perception, biology, philosophical "essentialism" and reifications, the social unconscious/paideuma, libertarian and Nietzschean and pragmatic ideas about self-creation and realization, "reality", imposters, frauds, and mass contradiction. Just for starters. So I can only touch on a few topics before I bore the crap out of even my most fervent reader.
Confessio
A friend brought up my blogspew on the Joe Satriani book, and I went on to confess that I read far too many rock star biographies and autobiographies, and that they're often so shallow and filled with omissions that I don't know why I read these books. I've probably read about 60 of these things in the past four years. It's my own form of "slumming" reading. I enjoy these books, even if they're not very good. As a library clerk I noted certain patrons read mystery novels as if they were their own form of crossword puzzles. Other intellectual types will read porn. (I do this too.)
In the past few years I've noted the rise of the phrases "hate watching" and "hate reading." I don't think I'm hate-reading these rock-star books. I have a background as a guitar player and teacher, and I told my friend I feel like I'm sort of "like" these people, I just never "made it." But I understand the worlds they inhabit. Or rather: I imagine I do. And then, internally and without saying anything, I'd suddenly realized I'd just given an account of part of who I "am" and what social group/subculture I feel like I'm somehow privy to. And, Dolezal and Jenner had been ricocheting through my consciousness as of late. This is something I think we all do: we sub-vocalize stories to ourselves about who we "are", who are "our" people, what tribe we belong to, etc. Often, we say stuff out loud. Lawd knows there are jabbering orifices in the media who are happy to tell all of us who "really is" who or if someone "really isn't" a "true" member of some group. We have a long way to go with this jit, and I'm frequently as guilty as anyone else.
Robert Trivers
At this point I could write 5000 words on the work of renegade, colorful genius biologist Robert Trivers, but will leave this for some other day. What he's written on the biology of deception, which requires self-deception in order to work well, has really blown my mind. Also: though he's a white guy who came from the East Coast and has had more influence on evolutionary psychology than anyone: he seems to "be" sorta "black." It's not just me. In David Jay Brown's intro to the interview with Trivers published in Mavericks of the Mind (found HERE), Trivers's colleague Burney Le Boeuf refers to Trivers as "the blackest white man I know." Trivers joined the Black Panther Party in 1979 and named Huey Newton as one of his children's godfather. He loves Jamaica and Jamaican women and rasta and cannabis, and says he's "Jamaican in my soul and spirit." Anyway...
Caitlyn Jenner
As far as Caitlyn Jenner goes, my joy is that many of us have evolved enough to just say, "Good for her! It takes courage." Other than that, it's her business, and let us not forget the vast accumulation of scientific social activity and research and technique that allows anyone to physically become more or what they feel like is their "true self." (When I was very young and Bruce Jenner won the Decathlon in the Olympics, he was my hero for a few months. I wanted to be a decathlete! Then, as a painfully skinny asthmatic, I picked up an actual shot - the metal ball used in the shot-put - and realized I might imagine other fallback positions. How he fell in with Kardashians I have no idea and probably will never find out...and sorta hope I never do.)
Science!
When it comes to Rachel Dolezal: what better story to expose those ideological positions of media people who don't seem to have internalized the scientific consensus on "race." Let me quote from the American Association of Physical Anthropology's statement on the biological aspects of race:
Humanity cannot be classified into discrete geographic categories with absolute boundaries. Partly as a result of gene flow, the hereditary characteristics of human populations are in a state of perpetual flux. Distinctive local populations are continually coming into and passing out of existence. Such populations do not correspond to breeds of domestic animals, which have been produced by artificial selection over many generations for specific human purposes. There is no necessary concordance between biological characteristics and culturally defined groups. On every continent, there are diverse populations that differ in language, economy, and culture. There is no national, religious, linguistic or cultural group or economic class that constitutes a race...there is no causal linkage between these physical and behavioral traits, and therefore it is not justifiable to attribute cultural characteristics to genetic inheritance.
Sociology!
And YET...we all, even those of us who have internalized the above scientific idea, "know" that race is a Big Deal in our lives. The 1928 Thomas Theorem in sociology holds, and fast:
If men define situations as real, they are real in their consequences.
Almost all of us will want to tweak the Theorem by replacing "men" with "men and women" or just "humans." But this quote in itself is worth internalizing, if not memorizing, eh?
From the Former Lew Alcindor
So: I've been following the Dolezal story for my own purposes, and it's one that tells me far more about the commenters than Dolezal herself. And who comes along, in Time magazine no less, to articulate what my basic take is? Kareem Abdul-Jabbar, another one of my childhood sports heroes. Kareem knows race is a social construct yet most people don't know or act like it, and besides, who doesn't wanna be "black" every now and then?
Mezz Mezzrow
This reminds me of one of the most amazing books I've ever read: Really the Blues, by Mezz Mezzrow and Bernard Wolfe. Not only does the jewish Mezz identify with what he perceives as the authenticity of the "Negro," but he gradually "becomes" one, officially: prison wardens honor his insistence that he be housed with the blacks and not the whites; the draft board allows Mezz to pass as black. Mezz passed, athough he didn't look black at all. I accept him as black as part of a Nietzschean self-creation which was so good, his black-skinned jazz colleagues accepted him as one of their own.
He married a black woman, lived as a black man, resided in an African-American mental culture, so thoroughly internalized the ethos of his black friends that he felt he "really was" "black." (Side Q: did J.K. Rowling get the term Mezz sometimes uses for cannabis, "muggles", from Mezz/Wolfe? Does Voldemort know about this?)
Mezz, as filtered through the canny writer Bernard Wolfe, identifies with all that is Dionysian in black culture, against the stuffy, stuck, miserableness of white culture. And New Orleans-style anarchic jazz is the epitome: a mind-meld of true consciousness flowing out of musical instruments. All Mezz wants is "authenticity" and to feel really good. We read 1946's Really the Blues for many reasons: the vivid depictions of the gangster underworld in Unistat during Prohibition, the anecdotes about famous jazzmen (it's why Woody Allen said he likes the book), about "jive" and the sociolinguistics of Harlem in the 1930s and 40s, tales of pot smoking versus alcohol and its "juice heads", and that damned opium that tore Mezz apart for awhile. It's also fanciful beyond belief, but we're never sure to what extent.
Something that I've discovered has been noted previously by others, but perhaps not well enough: passages in Kerouac's On the Road that discuss jazz? Kerouac was probably highly influenced by Mezzrow here. Kerouac didn't admit to reading Mezz/Wolfe, but Ginsberg remembers the book being around in his closest circle (of very very many circles!), and Kerouac was in that circle. Mezz/Wolfe: 1946. On the Road: 1955. FWIW...I know that my reading of Really the Blues took the shine off the pants of Kerouac's depictions of jazz ecstasy, and I'd read Kerouac first. Mezz really felt it, and though Mezz is talking about New Orleans-style jazz, and what Sal Paradise and Dean Moriarty are digging seems more be-bop? (Mezz famously seems almost retrograde in his aesthetic.)
Bernard Wolfe, like Robert Anton Wilson (their careers as writers have much in common), who actually wrote the book, went to Yale, was with Trotsky in Mexico, was guided into a career of writing porn by Henry Miller and Anais Nin: Wolfe needed something to pay bills and wanted to keep up his writing life, was influenced by Alfred Korzybski and Norbert Wiener and a psychoanalyst named Edmund Bergler, and wrote a science fiction book called Limbo, about which scholar Carolyn Geduld writes, "In its own way, Limbo may be as difficult a book as James Joyce's Ulysses. The latter imposes difficulties of form on a relatively simple narrative, while Limbo uses a simple form - the science fiction, antiutopian novel - to discuss very complex theoretical material."- from Bernard Wolfe, by Carolyn Geduld, p.73...Enough of this digression...
In short, I see Mezz's book "as told to" Wolfe - who makes a brief appearance as a character in the book - as one of those autobiographies that strike me as Wholly Other. But I do believe Mezz really thought he was black. And he gives his reasons. And I honor them.
Mezz Mezzrow, cannabis enthusiast, friend of Louis Armstrong,
"black" man. Photo by Wm. P. Gottlieb
A Philosopher of "Passing"
Daniel Silvermint is a Philosophy professor at the U. of Connecticut and writes interestingly about "passing" with regard to the Dolezal case HERE. Note well his second paragraph, in which he states his background and that he's "probably mistaken about much." This was for a time a "thing" among cultural anthropologists who wrote ethnographies. I feel such "disclaimers" would bring more light to almost all discussions coming from professors, and other culture writers, if only from a claim made from the very heart of the sociology of knowledge.
What turns me on is any attempt to create a proto-taxonomy of "passing." There's "reverse passing," which Silvermint objects to, as it assumes there's only one "natural" direction anyone would pass that would be appropriate, and he reminds us there's a remarkable number of social categories of passing and cases. People try to "pass" for something else for any number of reasons. We need to look at who is claiming what identity and what their personal circumstances and priorities are before making distinctions. But it's ultra complex stuff: we all carry around stereotypes and assumptions, but forget how fluid and arbitrary these identities seem. It seems to me that taking to heart the scientific findings about race quoted above, together with the gritty socially constructed world of "race" we must inhabit, is but a starting point.
Silvermint says some cases of passing are about wanting others to misidentify you. I often wonder how many times I've not noticed a really accomplished transvestite. There seems to be a notion of "trans" passing, but someone who's undergone sexual reassignment really "is" the new sex. Even with this, there seem to be infinite gradations. Just hormones? Hormones and surgery, but still dressing the way you did before you became transsexual? Etc. Far more interesting to me, and probably more pervasive, is what Silvermint calls "unintentional passing" or "passive passing": other people do a poor job of identifying what's going on. He gives examples: we see someone who's interracial and call them white. (Or with Obama: black.) Intersex people might be seen as male. (See Alice Dreger's recent book Galileo's Middle Finger for a tremendous elaboration on this idea.) Or, Silvermint suggests, we might see a gender nonconformist as a woman. I knew two brothers in Los Angeles, both very charming and funny, well-educated and polyglot. They were muslims from Afghanistan, but in Los Angeles after 9/11, they were okay with regularly being mistaken for being Mexican workers. And it's now an old joke that liberal Unistatians who traveled to Europe after Bush and Cheney started the Iraq war, sewed Canadian flags on their backpacks.
We seem to have a very strong need to put people in boxes, the "correct" categories, always forgetting we made all the categories up long ago and have reified them.
Other cases are the oppressed passing as the privileged. (What's with all the fancy cars parked in impoverished neighborhoods?) Or: privileged people passing as the oppressed. I recall a fascinating lecture from Anthropology professor Sam Sandt in which he said there are some groups that are relatively easy to access in order to do an ethnography on them: the nouveau riche are easy: they want people to know how great they are 'cuz they're now rich! The most difficult group is the Old Money people: families that have been very wealthy for a few generations. Often their houses are not viewable from the street, and they drive old beat-up cars.
Dolezal's parents, who outed her and showed the press photos of Rachel as a teenage girl who looks a lot like the beautiful and talented actress Laura Linney, think they've blown the whistle on their daughter and ended the charade. Had Dolezal adopted the "oppressed" position to gain advantage? To me, as of this date, it's not at all that clear. She, like Mezzrow, seems to truly see herself as "black." Again, I tend to agree with Abdul-Jabbar. Silvermint brings up the "mutually-beneficial" variety of passing. This might fit Dolezal, too.
Probably most of us draw the line at passing yourself off as the long-lost cousin who shows up with his inheritance due, like the Duke and Dauphin in Huckleberry Finn. That's just a straight con-job, right? At the same time, read about the life of Ferdinand Waldo Demara, "The Great Imposter," who once passed himself off as a surgeon, and when confronted with a necessary chest surgery, found a textbook on how to do it, crammed feverishly, and pulled it off! The patient lived! Demara's life as an imposter is truly amazing, and he had a proto-Erving Goffman-like theory about the presentation of self in everyday life, what's taken for "reality" and how to bend this reality. He's a criminal, yes. But also: some sort of Artist.
Here's another type of passing: Tania Head, the Woman Who Wasn't There. She had everyone believing her story about losing her boyfriend in the World Trade Center on 9/11. Why did she do it? There's a fascinating documentary about her. She seems like Demara to me, but less daring and artistic, but then my personal taxonomy of passing is still inchoate.
Silvermint's strongest point, to me, is this: "We don't normally think of racialized group membership as something one can genuinely transition into or out of, but perhaps that's as socially determined as anything else." I think he's right: how we carry on conversations with each other can reinforce socially-constructed categories.
All of this passing business seems complex-unto-vertigo, but it could just boil down to Robert Anton Wilson's maxim: Reality is what you can get away with. There are some readers here who know me, and they're "on" to my game. But to those who don't know me personally: that picture over to the side may not be accurate at all. This "Michael" guy who calls himself the "Overweening Generalist" just MIGHT be a 47 year old Latina lesbian. What do we really know, at this point?
Some Other Passing Examples To Think On
The Founder of the Nation of Islam lied about his "race."
Emperor Norton of San Francisco (mutually beneficial passing?)
Neo-Nazi Craig Cobb finds out his ancestors were black (Dolezal made this point: that we all came out of Africa at some point. I've often felt compelled to check "African-American" on bureaucratic forms, instead of "caucasian" -which most people would say I "am" - simply in protest that those boxes were there at all. But this idiot essentialist Cobb deserved to be blinded by science, no?)
The Cobb story reminds me of comedian Dave Chappelle's brilliant and hilarious bit on a white supremacist who's blind...and black. See it HERE. If you've never seen it, it's NSFW and 9 minutes of your life you really should make time for...
Jazzman Billy Tipton was really a female all along.
Two books on the subject: Passing, by Nella Larsen, and Black Like Me, by John Howard Griffin. Get thee to the library!
Three articles on Donezal I read closely:
"Rachel Donezal and the History of Passing for Black"
"Rachel Donezal's 'Passing' Isn't So Unusual"
"16 Key Takeaways From Rachel Dolezal's Interview with Melissa Harris-Perry"
I previously riffed on some aspects of self-identity back in 2011.
You'll notice I haven't said a thing about two of our favorite actor-Scientologists, John Travolta and Tom Cruise. And it shall remain that way.
Finally: I must recommend a wonderful book from 2012 by an Anthropologist named Agustin Fuentes titled Race, Monogamy, and Other Lies They Told You. Subtitled, "Busting myths about human nature." I found the official statement from the AAPA about race in his book. It's not the easiest of reads, but the slog was for me well worth my while, and it might be worth yours as well.
artwork by Bobby Campbell
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Tuesday, May 1, 2012
Sex Has Caught My Eye: Gender/Identity Issues
Since writing about sex and culture got all my ad dough pulled, I figure what've I got to lose now? So yea: sex has caught my eye...when doesn't it? Am I right?
Gender and Identity: We Got Issues
How easy I've had it, being...oops! I mean self-identifying as a heterosexual male. "Being" implies too much ontological certainty, and I can speak for myself, but when I'm reading about others, I realize I can't speak for them. They have their... choices? I will give them the benefit of the doubt. They are dealing with their not-feeling-like-I-fit-in-the-traditional-Heterosexual-Homosexual model thing. They are far more diverse than we "I always felt like I was gay (or straight)" types. I've been thinking a lot more about this stuff since around January of this year, when a good friend told me the lurid trials of an extended family member who has gone from male to female - or is in transition - and I met someone else in a similar situation. It's funny-weird how when we pay attention to these things and start thinking about them, many other instances seem to jump into our lives, seemingly taking metaphysical advantage of the situation. Case in point: it was right around this time that I stumbled upon a book review of independent scholar Hanne Blank's book Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality.
What does it "mean" to be "straight"? We assume it's as old as dirt, and that most people have gone around calling themselves "straight" for the last 10,000 years. But not so. It's only about 150 year old, this gender identity of "straight." It's another social construction, at least according to Baltimore-based Blank, and I appreciate her gnomish Hermetic turn-the-tables move with this book.
She writes as if we must explain heterosexuality, and I think she's right: we may as well. But what's hilarious is she uses many of the same tropes that have been used when writing/thinking about explaining homosexuality. She's published erotica and has made an in-depth study of the meaning of virginity; she's had carnal relations with women yet lives with an XXY man now. One of those. The kind that give nightmares to Santorum types. I think they think it's catching, or they might have It already.
Klinefelter's Syndrome "male," or however they want to
self-identify. They have an extra X chromosome.
This is deeply amusing science, taking the assumptions of iconic "problem" books of naming, labeling, Linnaean-ishly classifying, and rationalizing - the DSM-IV being the best example - and holding a mirror up to that culture.
I first became aware of the riff from homosexuals that there are no homo- or hetero- people; there are only sexual acts, from reading Gore Vidal. While I think this sort of argument can appeal to intellectuals (it appealed to me, even though I had gay friends who "were" so much more than their acts!), I'm not sure it helped improve gay people's lives much. When the lumpenproles in backwater areas need to bash someone they perceive as even lower than themselves in the primate status hierarchy, they will, books like Blank's not factoring in much.
For anyone who wants to challenge the false-to-facts iron shackled-binarism of hetero vs. homo, here's a good book that argues for those desperately needed metaphors of the continuum and fluidity in human sexual identity.
Along these lines, a little fanfare for the Aussies, who now allow a third gender identity on their passports, "X."
It seems there's a fairly widespread confusion about sex genes/biology and "gender." Gender is a subjective feeling of "female-ness" or "male-ness." I have never seen any persuasive reason why we ought not allow allow people to express their gender in any way they want. But then in that sense I'm a classic liberal: cruelty is the worst thing we can do.
Sexual Identity and Non-Aristotelian Logic: A Proposal
I think I'm also predisposed to combat Aristotle's pervasive Law of the Excluded Middle. By and large, "Arry," - as Ezra Pound called him - invented modern, two-value logic, the values being "true" and "false." There can be no middle ground in Arry's Logic. Since then very many multi-valued logics have been developed and made use of by scientists and others. When it comes to sexual orientation, I'll be ironically conservative and say we ought to start with four values and develop our sex-logic from there.
Let us suppose there are 1.) heterosexuals 2.) homosexuals 3.) people who define as bisexuals or those who feel their gender does not match their biology 4.) asexuals. This last one? There are people who have no desire for sex with anyone, ever. According to Brock University psychologist Anthony Bogaert, of more than 18,000 British residents surveyed in 2004, about 1% seemed asexual. This is a lifelong non-desire for sex, not celibacy, which is a lifestyle choice. Sex for asexuals is a major yawner. Or a boring joke. In every other way, they appear "normal," a hideous word I normally steer clear of. (citation for asexuality: The Scientific American Book of Love, Sex and the Brain, by Judith Horstman, pp. 81-83)
To extend this sex-logic, we may either 1.) add more categories, and indeed I might have at least two under my #3 above; or 2.) assign numbers between 0 and 10 to each of the four categories, 10 being overwhelmingly, extremely straight or gay, for example. I see something approaching infinitude or a Very Large Number in #3 above. And remember your math: the set of points between 0 and 10 is infinite, by Cantor's definition.
No word from Down Under as to whether they are mulling a fourth choice for their passports, but I'm guessing no one really cares, especially the asexuals.
Finally, I followed the saga of actress Cynthia Nixon, who ticked off the militant political gays by telling the press that, while she lived with a man for a long time, she now lives with a woman and "chose" to be gay. She felt the backlash and clarified, saying she's bisexual, and didn't choose to be...but lucky gal: bisexuals get to choose by definition whether they want to sleep with males or females, or...any who fall in that vast chasm between. There's still a lot of dispute whether bisexuality even exists. (I hope to blog on that before I die, or get a decent-paying job, whichever comes first.)
Advantage: Bisexuality
Until then, I'm with Woody Allen, who said he was heterosexual, which is fine, but bisexuality "immediately doubles your chances for getting a date for Saturday night."
Gender and Identity: We Got Issues
How easy I've had it, being...oops! I mean self-identifying as a heterosexual male. "Being" implies too much ontological certainty, and I can speak for myself, but when I'm reading about others, I realize I can't speak for them. They have their... choices? I will give them the benefit of the doubt. They are dealing with their not-feeling-like-I-fit-in-the-traditional-Heterosexual-Homosexual model thing. They are far more diverse than we "I always felt like I was gay (or straight)" types. I've been thinking a lot more about this stuff since around January of this year, when a good friend told me the lurid trials of an extended family member who has gone from male to female - or is in transition - and I met someone else in a similar situation. It's funny-weird how when we pay attention to these things and start thinking about them, many other instances seem to jump into our lives, seemingly taking metaphysical advantage of the situation. Case in point: it was right around this time that I stumbled upon a book review of independent scholar Hanne Blank's book Straight: The Surprisingly Short History of Heterosexuality.
What does it "mean" to be "straight"? We assume it's as old as dirt, and that most people have gone around calling themselves "straight" for the last 10,000 years. But not so. It's only about 150 year old, this gender identity of "straight." It's another social construction, at least according to Baltimore-based Blank, and I appreciate her gnomish Hermetic turn-the-tables move with this book.
She writes as if we must explain heterosexuality, and I think she's right: we may as well. But what's hilarious is she uses many of the same tropes that have been used when writing/thinking about explaining homosexuality. She's published erotica and has made an in-depth study of the meaning of virginity; she's had carnal relations with women yet lives with an XXY man now. One of those. The kind that give nightmares to Santorum types. I think they think it's catching, or they might have It already.
Klinefelter's Syndrome "male," or however they want to
self-identify. They have an extra X chromosome.
This is deeply amusing science, taking the assumptions of iconic "problem" books of naming, labeling, Linnaean-ishly classifying, and rationalizing - the DSM-IV being the best example - and holding a mirror up to that culture.
I first became aware of the riff from homosexuals that there are no homo- or hetero- people; there are only sexual acts, from reading Gore Vidal. While I think this sort of argument can appeal to intellectuals (it appealed to me, even though I had gay friends who "were" so much more than their acts!), I'm not sure it helped improve gay people's lives much. When the lumpenproles in backwater areas need to bash someone they perceive as even lower than themselves in the primate status hierarchy, they will, books like Blank's not factoring in much.
For anyone who wants to challenge the false-to-facts iron shackled-binarism of hetero vs. homo, here's a good book that argues for those desperately needed metaphors of the continuum and fluidity in human sexual identity.
Along these lines, a little fanfare for the Aussies, who now allow a third gender identity on their passports, "X."
It seems there's a fairly widespread confusion about sex genes/biology and "gender." Gender is a subjective feeling of "female-ness" or "male-ness." I have never seen any persuasive reason why we ought not allow allow people to express their gender in any way they want. But then in that sense I'm a classic liberal: cruelty is the worst thing we can do.
Sexual Identity and Non-Aristotelian Logic: A Proposal
I think I'm also predisposed to combat Aristotle's pervasive Law of the Excluded Middle. By and large, "Arry," - as Ezra Pound called him - invented modern, two-value logic, the values being "true" and "false." There can be no middle ground in Arry's Logic. Since then very many multi-valued logics have been developed and made use of by scientists and others. When it comes to sexual orientation, I'll be ironically conservative and say we ought to start with four values and develop our sex-logic from there.
Let us suppose there are 1.) heterosexuals 2.) homosexuals 3.) people who define as bisexuals or those who feel their gender does not match their biology 4.) asexuals. This last one? There are people who have no desire for sex with anyone, ever. According to Brock University psychologist Anthony Bogaert, of more than 18,000 British residents surveyed in 2004, about 1% seemed asexual. This is a lifelong non-desire for sex, not celibacy, which is a lifestyle choice. Sex for asexuals is a major yawner. Or a boring joke. In every other way, they appear "normal," a hideous word I normally steer clear of. (citation for asexuality: The Scientific American Book of Love, Sex and the Brain, by Judith Horstman, pp. 81-83)
To extend this sex-logic, we may either 1.) add more categories, and indeed I might have at least two under my #3 above; or 2.) assign numbers between 0 and 10 to each of the four categories, 10 being overwhelmingly, extremely straight or gay, for example. I see something approaching infinitude or a Very Large Number in #3 above. And remember your math: the set of points between 0 and 10 is infinite, by Cantor's definition.
No word from Down Under as to whether they are mulling a fourth choice for their passports, but I'm guessing no one really cares, especially the asexuals.
Finally, I followed the saga of actress Cynthia Nixon, who ticked off the militant political gays by telling the press that, while she lived with a man for a long time, she now lives with a woman and "chose" to be gay. She felt the backlash and clarified, saying she's bisexual, and didn't choose to be...but lucky gal: bisexuals get to choose by definition whether they want to sleep with males or females, or...any who fall in that vast chasm between. There's still a lot of dispute whether bisexuality even exists. (I hope to blog on that before I die, or get a decent-paying job, whichever comes first.)
Advantage: Bisexuality
Until then, I'm with Woody Allen, who said he was heterosexual, which is fine, but bisexuality "immediately doubles your chances for getting a date for Saturday night."
Tuesday, August 16, 2011
On Self-Definition
Recently I read a piece from Disinformation on women who insist militantly on dressing provocatively (AKA "sexily"?) and not allowing themselves to be defined as "asking for it" or for others to define them as "sluts." (They're calling themselves "sluts," much like homosexuals and African-Americans took re-appropriated the words, "faggot" and "nigger." The piece is here, and links to the original.)
For the record, I am 100% on their side. And not just because I like checking 'em out. I do check 'em out. But I think we ought to be more relaxed about nudity. And I have never thought a woman was "askin' for it" when she got raped, just because she went, at 10PM, to a bar with three pool tables, lots of Harleys parked out front, Stevie Ray Vaughan blasting from the juke box, and she wore hot pants, a halter top and heels. Maybe my mom raised her son to think that women should be able to express themselves that way; I don't know. Some critics have asserted that college undergrad women who go to frat parties and drink way too much, then allow college men to come back to their place for more partying "deserved it." No way. It's rape. She is guilty of being criminally ignorant, that's all. Anyway...
[I am well aware of the problem is saying it "is" rape, outright. I know it's at times not that easy to determine "consent." Each incident needs to be determined on a case-by-case basis, obviously. But "just look at what she was wearing" and "she was askin' for it, dressed like that" are never valid defenses, in my eyes. The case must be more about human actions than the way anyone was dressed.]
The playwright Edward Albee caught some flack a few months ago for asserting that he's a playwright who happens to be gay, and not a "gay playwright" or a "gay writer" or a "gay artist." And at first I thought, "What's the big deal?" Well, we know the deal: some of the more well-meaning politically militant in the homosexual "community" (I never liked the term: it implies a balkanization of some sort, and that there is "a" gay community, when I know plenty of gays and they're quite a disparate group, I hesitate to say they're not one "homogenous" group as the term "community" implies, as it might seem like a stab at a lame joke, but there it is.) insist on claiming every talented homosexual in their turf wars of Identity Politics. To be talented and gay and to reject the label of a Gay Artist is, to some caught up in these politics, to put at risk some posited solidarity against the repressive elements of Control. To reject the label is to open oneself to accusations of "false consciousness." Etc. I am also 100% for Albee's right to assert he's a writer who happens to be gay. Or as simply A Writer. Or as a Nice Guy. Or a Dodger fan. Fine!
"But I tell you I am Napoleon!"
From where I stand, I'm sorry it's even an issue. But it is an issue for some. That's a basic Reality Test: when you stop thinking about it or taking it seriously, does it go away? In this case, no. It's part of our collective "reality" and we must deal with this stuff, in some way.
[Caveat: when your "friend" says over and over he's a "stand-up guy," that you can trust him, and then he rips you and others off over and over, it's a different story. For obvious reasons. Then people in his circle will call him "So-and-So the Thief"and he must change his ways in order to be labeled in a more desirous way. When Bush 43 called himself "The Education President" the appropriate response was to laugh and point, and snicker, or feel disgust. You can self-describe all you want, but there's gotta be some semblance of "reality" to it!]
Any democratic, liberal society is, to me, one that allows everyone to pursue their own "identity." To allow some In-Group to be able to dictate how we can describe ourselves is, to me, a nightmare society.
Recently I labeled the Tea Party as "beige fascists." Assuredly a Tea Party member would take issue with this. And then I would say WHY I used the term. And she would counter with something. She's a True American, probably...<cough>
I put the term "identity" in quotes, because I reject the basic Western idea that we have one "self." I just think the idea's wrong, and leads to all sorts of contradictions, puzzles, and problems. (Note well the next time you hear someone say, "I can't believe I did that! What was I thinking?") Hey, maybe it was all that postmodernism I read in the 1990s. I see the one solitary "self" as being a convenient legal fiction in order to assign guilt and "cause." Which seems fairly limited in justice to me, as of this date.
But we do seem to have putative, convenient-fiction senses of our selves as social beings, having to do with the presentation of ourselves in everyday life. And I assume, based on neuroscience and sociology, that these selves are mutable. And I love that! We change over time. We ought to change, or probably something's wrong. And we can get feedback from friends, family, strangers, etc, telling us, "You seem different now." And that's data for us to think with. But only we can say who we are.
I have had it pretty damned easy, being a hetero white guy. And getting to Know Thyself seems ever-more difficult, the older I get. The more I know, the more I find I don't know! Which is...bracing.
Identity Politics has always seemed like a basic mistake to me, but I think I have a deep understanding as to why it caught on so strongly. I see it as ultimately divisive, but I might not see it that way if I were gay, or muslim, or of African physiognomy...
Let us revel in diversity! Vive la differance! (Or however you spell it.)
For the record, I am 100% on their side. And not just because I like checking 'em out. I do check 'em out. But I think we ought to be more relaxed about nudity. And I have never thought a woman was "askin' for it" when she got raped, just because she went, at 10PM, to a bar with three pool tables, lots of Harleys parked out front, Stevie Ray Vaughan blasting from the juke box, and she wore hot pants, a halter top and heels. Maybe my mom raised her son to think that women should be able to express themselves that way; I don't know. Some critics have asserted that college undergrad women who go to frat parties and drink way too much, then allow college men to come back to their place for more partying "deserved it." No way. It's rape. She is guilty of being criminally ignorant, that's all. Anyway...
[I am well aware of the problem is saying it "is" rape, outright. I know it's at times not that easy to determine "consent." Each incident needs to be determined on a case-by-case basis, obviously. But "just look at what she was wearing" and "she was askin' for it, dressed like that" are never valid defenses, in my eyes. The case must be more about human actions than the way anyone was dressed.]
The playwright Edward Albee caught some flack a few months ago for asserting that he's a playwright who happens to be gay, and not a "gay playwright" or a "gay writer" or a "gay artist." And at first I thought, "What's the big deal?" Well, we know the deal: some of the more well-meaning politically militant in the homosexual "community" (I never liked the term: it implies a balkanization of some sort, and that there is "a" gay community, when I know plenty of gays and they're quite a disparate group, I hesitate to say they're not one "homogenous" group as the term "community" implies, as it might seem like a stab at a lame joke, but there it is.) insist on claiming every talented homosexual in their turf wars of Identity Politics. To be talented and gay and to reject the label of a Gay Artist is, to some caught up in these politics, to put at risk some posited solidarity against the repressive elements of Control. To reject the label is to open oneself to accusations of "false consciousness." Etc. I am also 100% for Albee's right to assert he's a writer who happens to be gay. Or as simply A Writer. Or as a Nice Guy. Or a Dodger fan. Fine!
"But I tell you I am Napoleon!"
From where I stand, I'm sorry it's even an issue. But it is an issue for some. That's a basic Reality Test: when you stop thinking about it or taking it seriously, does it go away? In this case, no. It's part of our collective "reality" and we must deal with this stuff, in some way.
[Caveat: when your "friend" says over and over he's a "stand-up guy," that you can trust him, and then he rips you and others off over and over, it's a different story. For obvious reasons. Then people in his circle will call him "So-and-So the Thief"and he must change his ways in order to be labeled in a more desirous way. When Bush 43 called himself "The Education President" the appropriate response was to laugh and point, and snicker, or feel disgust. You can self-describe all you want, but there's gotta be some semblance of "reality" to it!]
Any democratic, liberal society is, to me, one that allows everyone to pursue their own "identity." To allow some In-Group to be able to dictate how we can describe ourselves is, to me, a nightmare society.
Recently I labeled the Tea Party as "beige fascists." Assuredly a Tea Party member would take issue with this. And then I would say WHY I used the term. And she would counter with something. She's a True American, probably...<cough>
I put the term "identity" in quotes, because I reject the basic Western idea that we have one "self." I just think the idea's wrong, and leads to all sorts of contradictions, puzzles, and problems. (Note well the next time you hear someone say, "I can't believe I did that! What was I thinking?") Hey, maybe it was all that postmodernism I read in the 1990s. I see the one solitary "self" as being a convenient legal fiction in order to assign guilt and "cause." Which seems fairly limited in justice to me, as of this date.
But we do seem to have putative, convenient-fiction senses of our selves as social beings, having to do with the presentation of ourselves in everyday life. And I assume, based on neuroscience and sociology, that these selves are mutable. And I love that! We change over time. We ought to change, or probably something's wrong. And we can get feedback from friends, family, strangers, etc, telling us, "You seem different now." And that's data for us to think with. But only we can say who we are.
I have had it pretty damned easy, being a hetero white guy. And getting to Know Thyself seems ever-more difficult, the older I get. The more I know, the more I find I don't know! Which is...bracing.
Identity Politics has always seemed like a basic mistake to me, but I think I have a deep understanding as to why it caught on so strongly. I see it as ultimately divisive, but I might not see it that way if I were gay, or muslim, or of African physiognomy...
Let us revel in diversity! Vive la differance! (Or however you spell it.)
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